Relationships are consistently viewed as a goal, whereas being single is viewed as a problem that needs to be fixed. However, being alone or single is not a crime and often is a preference. Many forms of media, whether it's movies, songs or books, also tell people to be in a relationship. The idea follows into conversations and judgments about the way people live.
Often the stereotypes around being single make relationships feel like a need instead of a want. Relationships and the experience of “falling in love” are great, but people don’t need to be part of a couple to enjoy life. There are so many reasons to be single and ways it can feel better than being in a relationship.
First, figure out where the want for someone comes from. Rushing into relationships can do more harm than good. It could lead to being with someone who isn’t a perfect match, or not fully understanding what someone needs in a relationship. It is important to understand why someone wants a relationship, if they are healed from past relationships and if they are mentally prepared to be in a relationship. Relationships are not bandages for life issues, instead they should come after the healing stage.
Being in a relationship can also mean over-relying on another person. This harms both people involved because one is overwhelmed with issues and the other is denying their faults. It could also be a mutual issue where both parties are over-reliant. When someone is alone, they can focus on their struggles and gain outside help if necessary, but it isn’t an automatic safety net.
Being alone is also fun, even though many refuse to believe it. Focusing on oneself can mean more growth and self-love. There is time to focus on new skills, friendships, creative activities, academics and self-care. Being comfortable alone can be eye-opening and can also make life much less stressful. Prioritizing one's own growth and well-being is an important, and sometimes forgotten, piece of loving someone else.
Friendships are also often a struggle in the context of relationships. When people are part of a couple, they can forget that their friends are an important factor in their life. It’s normal to spend more time with a partner, but balance is essential. After all, friends are who someone goes to for help if the relationship ends. It is important to appreciate everyone in life.
There are good aspects of both lifestyles. Being alone is enjoyable, but of course, so is being in a relationship, and having someone to be in a pair with is so special. It means having someone to go to and care for. It is especially fun this time of year when school is ending and holiday activities are around the corner. However, a relationship isn’t something everyone should feel pressure to be in. It is about timing and if people are ready.
Relationships can be fulfilling, but being single can be just as amazing and it is important to see the positives of both lifestyles. Remember to take time before jumping into life as a couple or judging other people’s relationship statuses. Having a partner is enjoyable and so is knowing how to be independent and happy about it.
Kyra Dapore is a junior studying journalism at Ohio University. Please note that the views and opinions of the columnists do not reflect those of The Post. Want to talk more about it? Let Kyra know by emailing her at kd364521@ohio.edu.
