Although hookup culture has had a substantial influence on dating and relationships, purity culture/anti-sex culture is thriving. Conversations around sex education and masturbation have become more taboo for the worse.
The state of sex education in the U.S is in dire need of fixing as there is no requirement for states when it comes to sex education. In the U.S., only 36 states plus Washington D.C. require something to be taught towards sex education. Only 10 states plus D.C. require teaching about non heterosexual sexualities and gender identities when it comes to sex ed, and six states prohibit or limit sex ed teaching for those groups. Along with limiting how sex education is taught, only “four hours or less” is spent on education about HIV or sexually transmitted diseases. Parents/guardians can also opt their child out of sex education.
One common misconception about sex education is that it encourages young people to have sex. Thus, 39 states emphasize or mandate abstinence-only sex education. Students should be taught about all contraceptives, and one should not be prioritized over the other. However, sex education is about more than just sex. A comprehensive sex education plan can educate students on consent, communication and relationships. The lack of proper sex education comes with dangers like a potential rise of STDs in young people and more.
There is also a huge stigmatization about masturbation and sex especially surrounding women that needs to be dismantled. The topic of masturbation among women is often seen as taboo when it shouldn’t be. In the 19th century, female masturbation and orgasms were associated with hysteria. While it is known that is not the case, many women still feel ashamed about self-gratification. However, it should not be viewed as shameful. Along with feeling good, masturbation can help one explore sexuality, learn about one's body and can help with body positivity.
When it comes to talking about sex there is a double standard when it comes to women and men. A man who has a lot of sex is seen as a “player” or a “stud,” but a woman who does the same is seen as a “slut.” By praising one gender and criticizing another for the same actions it creates the idea that women should not express their sexuality as freely. Conversations around people who abstain from sex also need to change. People abstain from sex for multiple reasons from religion to preference. Those people should not be shamed just as people who have a lot of sex should not be shamed.
Sex education and conversations around sex/masturbation have become increasingly taboo in recent years. Schools should prioritize a comprehensive sex education plan that not only helps prevent teen pregnancy and STDs but also promotes healthy relationships. No matter if someone is having sex or not having sex they should not be shamed. If someone is happy with either choice or is having safe sex it should not be discouraged. By talking about sex it helps more people feel comfortable with having it
BedPost is a sex and relationship column that does not reflect the views of The Post.
