If you weren't born with female genitalia, you might be unfamiliar with the clitoris and its purpose.
A tiny bundle of nerves that sits above the vulva, this underrated organ has long been shrouded by mystery. Does the clitoris exist? Where can you find it? What exactly is its purpose? Continue reading to find answers to these questions and more.
Does the clitoris exist and where is it?
Yes! Although everyone's body is different, the clitoris is an intricate network of nerves typically recognized as being located at the top of the vulva. Internally, it measures nine to 11 centimeters, with the body and root being parts inside. Although you can't see the entire clitoris, it's very much a part of the female anatomy.
What does it do?
With more than 10,000 nerve fibers found to be in the human clitoris in a recent study done by Oregon Health & Science University, it's no wonder this organ is the only known human organ with a singular purpose: to provide pleasure. Acting similarly to a penis, the clitoris can grow two or three times its normal size and fill with blood when aroused.
How to find it?
Depending on your partner's anatomy, you should start by spreading the outer labia to reveal the inner labia. This should reveal the clitoral hood, which protects the clitoris. Using a gentle touch, pushing the clitoral hood up will allow the tip of the clitoris, a round bulb at the top of the vulva, to be exposed.
What to know about clitoral orgasms?
Clitoral orgasms, everyone's most desired outcome during sex, are said to be more intense than vaginal orgasms. A study from the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy showed that 36.6% of intercourse-experienced women reported they need clitoral stimulation to orgasm during intercourse. 36% of that study said although they do not need clitoral stimulation, that adding it enhanced the orgasm. Attempting to add pressure to the clitoris during sexual activities is one way to attempt to bring about a clitoral orgasm.
Things to consider when stimulating the clitoris
First and foremost, always keep in mind that the clitoris is a sensitive organ that is exposed both inside and outside of the body. Being gentle and slow is important to avoid hurting your partner and learning what does or doesn't work for them. If you don't know what works for your partner, just ask! They'll likely be willing to guide you or even show you what they like.
Never be afraid to try new things, whether it be different patterns or the pressure you're applying to the clitoris. Even something as simple as switching up which fingers you're using can make all the difference.
Next time you have the opportunity to explore your partner's vagina, consider this information on how you can give them their next "Big O."
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