Kristin and Ian discuss how to sleep around and find that significant other.
Dear Bedpost,
Like you guys seem to, I really like sex. So, I sleep around a lot. My friends seem to think this means I'll never find a boyfriend. I'm beginning to think they're right. How do I satisfy my needs but still try and find Mr. Right?
Dear reader,
I like sex? I guess the column and podcast and 90 percent of my conversations gave that away. Oops.
First things first (I’m the realest), your friends maybe need to be educated on the fact that sex and relationships are, in fact, linked. It’s hard to believe but, most of your friends who are dating have probably had sex with each other. I know!
Moving on, I totally get that feel, lady. There’s unfortunately this sense of weird feelings that comes along with one night stands and casual sex, but still wanting a relationship with someone. It can get muddled when we’re all trying to put each other in these boxes: friend, friend with benefits, boyfriend, dude I kiss because Game of Thrones is on hiatus and we both need something to pass the time on Sundays.
But, although sex and relationships are linked, a good bone does not a quality relationship make. I’m not saying hookups can’t turn into quality relationships — they can, I’ve seen it done and done it — but you can’t force this nor should you want to. You don’t have to date these guys if you don’t feel like it.
Keep getting down (safely!) with your bad self and keep looking for love if that’s what makes you happy. Who knows, that guy who buys you D.P. Dough after you do the deed could be your Prince Charming. Or you could just keep having good sex. High Five!
P.S. Get better friends. I’m open for brunch if you want no-judgment talks.
Kristin is a senior studying journalism and a slot editor at The Post.
Who says I like sex?
Follow-up question: Have you seen a romantic comedy? If the answer to the latter is “yes,” you should already be all too aware that finding “Mr. Right” is never as simple as knowing where to look. He’s never where you expect him to be. In fact, maybe he’s been your *knowing gasp* best friend the whole time.
Since that’s stupid, let’s start discussing your current sleeping status in more realistic terms. I’m no expert, (I’m an expert) but maybe finding a boyfriend isn’t necessarily that important for you right now. You’re in college; there’s no reason you should be worried about settling down right now.
In fact, you can have a completely fulfilling life without ever settling down at all, seducing 20-somethings into your CEO corner office.
I don’t have a boyfriend and I’m doing just fine.
If you end up wanting to settle down eventually, that’s certainly far from a bad thing, too. But don’t feel any pressure to do so right now if it doesn’t seem natural. Get it on after liquor pitcher night at Lucky’s. You’ll be fine. Wrap it up though.
Ian Ording is a senior studying journalism and Copy Chief of The Post.
